Then do what you must. Pre-divorce some 30 years ago I consulted with an attorney. One thing I recall him saying was to not permit her to walk out of the house with anything, e.g. jewelry. Once it is out the disposition i unknown and well not something that can then be valued. You rae "consulting" here on MDS, I can almost guarantee your ball-and-chain is doing likewise with her friends or whatever. Move fast, move decisively. IANAL.There is no negotiating with this woman. 0% chance.